I have not had a drink in nearly 2 months. In 5 days I will have earned my 2 month chip. In that time I have also switched to a plant-based diet.
I would like to say that these 2 decisions are miraculously making me into the fabulous version of myself that I always knew I could be, much like an after picture where life is now wonderful and amazing and the problems of daily life do not exist.
What I’m noticing is an awareness of the pervasiveness of drinking culture. Mommy play groups, social media, cute videos depicting funny women discussing parenting over glasses of wine, college life, radio ads, military groups, music, books, etc. It’s everywhere. It seems normal. But is it?
I notice personally, that my skin is clear-ish. My clothes are loose. Life is going by, just as it always has. My head is clearer. I feel better. Burying feelings under a heavy blanket of alcohol is no longer an option. I’m reading more and am noticing more, but it’s still me. I think that’s the thing is that you still have to deal with yourself. I am not reaching and pining for something to drink, as I imagined I would. I don’t wake up tired and cranky most of the time. I go to bed without regret, usually just tired and ready for the day to be over.
The ‘one day at a time’ mantra is ringing true just as much for sobriety as it is for deployment. Play a game with the kids, be present. Prepare a meal. Read. Write. Be with the dogs. Clean the house.
Just do life.
Without the numb.